Happy new year! I am sure by now you must have already decided and taken your New Year resolutions. But I haven’t been able to finalize on my resolutions yet. I have a confession: I searched many other blogs to find out their New Year resolutions. But I could not relate to most of them.

Every year I used to make some resolutions only to disconnect from them before the end of January. A few days after New Year’s Day, I find it difficult to adjust to the resolutions I had taken. After a few more weeks, I don’t see eye to eye with my resolutions. I kinda feel an aversion towards them and they also start throwing tantrums and we part our ways! So this year I don’t want to repeat such disasters.

I was wondering whether I really need to make New Year resolutions. I don’t know about you, but none of the resolutions I have taken so far have transformed me into a completely ‘new me’. This year I have decided not to set any unrealistic resolutions. Instead, I am going to focus on the things I already have. Instead of trying to add some new habits if I can subtract any undesirable old habits I may be able to make room for more happiness and peace. So I asked myself what changes I would need to make in my current lifestyle so that I can create a ‘better me’. (Hopefully!)  I enjoyed the time taken thinking just about me and the things that fascinate me!

I have always loved making a list especially a to-do list, and ticking off the to-do list is what I enjoy doing even more. 🙂  So I categorized the required changes into four groups. As I was already captivated by the term ‘minimalism’ (intentionally trying to live with only the things we really need) at the end of last year, I decided to apply that here too. So I have made only minimal changes to the four groups, namely, physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual dimensions. One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you must give up before you get it!

  • Physical
    • health – Stop sleeping late and getting up late.
    • food – Stop having late breakfast.
    • interiors – Stop holding on to things I don’t use any more like vessels, decor items and so on.
  • Emotional
    • Stop resisting the acceptance of realities, no matter how hard it is, and move on.
    • Stop saying YES when I want to say NO.
    • Stop using social media at least one hour before going to sleep and for one hour after getting up.
  • Intellectual
    • read – Stop buying books without reading what I already have.
    • write – Stop postponing my blog post publishing date.
    • learn – Stop putting off the online courses that I had signed up for. This is to feed my left brain with adequate nutrients, without which somehow I feel incomplete!
  • Spiritual
    • yoga – Stop finding excuses for not doing it daily and consistently.
    • meditation – Stop doing it for short intervals at any time of the day; instead set a specific time and duration for it.

I hope these changes energize me, inspire me, motivate me, encourage me and above all make me happy. I know action speaks louder than words and it takes 21 days to create a new habit or break a bad habit! I have decided to make it happen instead of focusing on the results of the above changes. After all, it’s the journey, not the destination, that matters!

Start working on the life you want and do more of what makes you happy. If anyone out there is still working on finalizing New Year resolutions, keep in mind the following:

  • Ask yourself if the resolution is your own or is it based on someone else’s opinion. If it’s not your own then the chances of failing are 99.99%. (Based on my own experience!)
  • Check in what way it is going to make you happier or improve your current lifestyle.
  • Set a short timeframe to assess your progress.
  • Instead of adding a new habit, scan through your existing habits and check whether you can break any of those to get more happiness and peace.

Do something today that your future self will be thankful for!  But don’t forget to stop and smell the roses because life is what happens while we are busy making other plans. May all your wishes come true!

Happy empty nesting! 🙂



  1. Dear Mineetha,
    I always enjoy reading your blogs. I never take any New year resolution because i never work on it. As you are aware i am doing a course on counseling now, i noticed lots of changes in me. My resolution is to help people in whatever way I can. I want to help at least one person every day. Whatever it may be – big or small, whether directing a stranger or a bigger help. The happiness I get when I help someone is beyond my words. Keep writing.
    Loving friend Parvathy

    • Thank you, Parvathy. Glad that you are enjoying my blog. Helping people in whatever small way we can without expecting nothing in return gives us immense joy. I am very happy that you have taken up the counseling course. I am sure you can make a great difference in the lives of people around you in a positive way as always! All the best, Parvathy.

  2. Dear Mineetha,
    I have been going through your blogs and I really enjoy reading them. It’s not only informative but the content really connects with lives at one phase or the other. You are amazing in the way you put across your experiences.. I am really glad that you are filling your empty nest productively.. You are an inspiration.. Keep writing..

    • Dear Nisha, Thanks a lot for taking the time to check out my blog. I am glad that you are enjoying. When I started writing I never thought I would get this much encouragement! Thank you very much for your kind words. Its really motivating me to write even more!

  3. I am a great fan of your blog mini. I think it’s because of the topics u choose. All category of people can relate to it i feel. May be these blogs reveal the inner realms of the author which is quite fascinating for me. Whatever it is reading through the lines u write is a real feast for me. Keep on posting…


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